Kristan Higgins

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Kristan Higgins is a New York Times bestselling author and two-time winner of the Romance Writers of America RITA Award. Her books have been called "perfect entertainment for a girl's night in" (Booklist), "hilarious and heartfelt" (Romance Junkies) and "the best I've ever read" (Kristan's husband).

Kristan is the mother of two lovely children, the wife of a firefighter and the owner of a very naughty dog. She loves to eat out, watch movies and of course, read.

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Richardson_nobetterman_HighResHoneymoon Mishaps 

When I tell people that my husband and I went to Canada for our honeymoon, I’m almost always met with a blank open-mouthed stare. Canada? Really?

 I realize it’s not the obvious choice. But the truth is, I’m a mountain girl at heart. I grew up camping and hiking and wandering all over the Rocky Mountains in Colorado. So, when we were planning what would be our first real vacation together, it didn’t even occur to me to look at a beach. (You’ll be happy to know I’ve since expanded my horizons.) But for me, romance and adventure could only be found in the mountains, and what mountains are more breathtaking and romantic than the iconic peaks near Lake Louise in Banff National Park?

That week while we stayed in Lake Louise, we went hiking and canoeing and whitewater rafting. But my favorite experience was the day we went on a backcountry ATV tour. Now, being newly married and totally into PDA, we decided we’d ride the two-seater ATV so we could be together. My husband had *some* experience driving, and I was overjoyed at the prospect of sitting behind him, arms locked around his waist, snuggling as we meandered through the backcountry, breathing in the fresh air, snapping pictures of the views. I mean, how romantic is that? It turned out to be very romantic, but also thrilling. Instead of meandering, we raced through the wilderness dodging pine trees and tearing up the dirt path. As time went by, we got braver and braver until finally *we* decided to hit an embankment full throttle.

honeymoon07How many of you have ever ridden one of those roller-coasters that goes upside down? I haven’t. As much as I love adventure, I hate roller-coasters. But that day, my husband and I created our own little loop-de-loop. We hit that embankment and flew. I remember seeing trees, then nothing but sky as the machine beneath us catapulted into the air and proceeded to flip. My back hit the ground with a thud and I looked up. Just when I thought the ATV would land right on us, my new stud of a husband kicked the seat Chuck-Norris-style and sent it crashing off the side of the trail. You should’ve seen me swoon. 

 That was the day I knew I’d married the right man. 

Fourteen years later, my husband and I still love chasing adventure together. It’s one of the best things we’ve done for our marriage. In the context of a relationship, adventure breeds intimacy. It teaches you to laugh together, to rely on each other, to remember the people you were when you fell in love. It adds a dimension of shared experience that bonds two people together. That’s why I tend to write books that incorporate adventure and romance. In so many ways, pursuing adventure helps you experience a reckless freedom to embrace life. All of my heroines experience this type of epiphany during their journey. This excerpt from No Better Man describes that feeling:

Meanwhile, her life had passed her by, the minutes ticking away while she sat in meetings and wrote e-mails and traveled to various sites around the world, pumping every ounce of energy and inspiration into work. All of which she did while sleeping alone. She didn’t want her bed cold anymore. She wanted it the way it felt with Bryce. Warm and intimate. Even if she couldn’t be with him, he’d opened her up to new possibilities; he’d revived her and exposed her to a depth of passion she hadn’t even known existed.

He’d made her want more.

Her heart shifted hard in her chest, making her feel reckless and free as she gazed out at the mountains. Just like Bryce, she had a choice. She could choose her own freedom. “I don’t want to go back,” she said, eyes captivated by the swirling clouds.

It looked like change was coming, a storm…

“What do you mean?” Van asked.

“To Chicago. To work. I don’t want to go back.” Now that she’d said it, it felt like the easiest decision she’d ever made.

My husband and I no longer do aerial stunts. These days our adventures look a bit different. It might be trying out a new restaurant or sneaking away for an afternoon hike or a day of skiing. Sometimes, if we’re really lucky, we take a whole weekend. It doesn’t matter what we’re doing as long as we’re stepping outside the chaos of our everyday lives to seek out a shared experience. Every time we do that, I feel like we’re newlyweds again, setting out on a grand adventure that somehow never fails to revive our connection. 

I’d love to hear any fun honeymoon or vacation mishap stories you have! Leave a comment telling us yours and I’ll randomly pick one person to win an Everyday Adventures bag, including a copy of my new release No Better Man, a really cute picnic blanket, a water bottle and an adventurous shade of nail polish.

June-2014-headshots-23About the author:

Sara Richardson grew up chasing adventure in Colorado’s rugged mountains. She’s climbed to the top of a 14,000-foot peak at midnight, swam through Class IV rapids, completed her wilderness first-aid certification, and spent seven days at a time tromping through the wilderness. 

Eventually, Sara did the responsible thing and got an education in writing and journalism. After a brief stint in the corporate writing world, she stopped ignoring the voices in her head and started writing fiction. Now, she uses her experience as a mountain adventure guide to write stories that incorporate adventure with romance. Still indulging her adventurous spirit, Sara lives and plays in Colorado with her saint of a husband and two young sons.

Connect with Sara at www.sararichardson.com or https://www.facebook.com/sararichardsonbooks

 

Kristan Higgins

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Kristan Higgins is a New York Times bestselling author and two-time winner of the Romance Writers of America RITA Award. Her books have been called "perfect entertainment for a girl's night in" (Booklist), "hilarious and heartfelt" (Romance Junkies) and "the best I've ever read" (Kristan's husband).

Kristan is the mother of two lovely children, the wife of a firefighter and the owner of a very naughty dog. She loves to eat out, watch movies and of course, read.

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Screen Shot 2015-05-19 at 9.20.44 AMOne of the best things about writing books is that everyone gets closure.

Closure is one of those things you don’t pay attention to until you’re DYING for it. Am I right? So here’s my story on not getting it, and a few words of advice given by friends and the good old Internet.

I had a friend. Let’s call her L. She…well, betrayed is a strong word, but it fits. She turned her back on what I thought was a wonderful and long friendship, and she took something from me (no, not a boyfriend) in a very calculated way, and I couldn’t undo what she did. It was shocking and devastating and required me to scramble to recover from it.

Not-Apologizing-Can-Trump-Saying-Sorry-As-Far-As-Psychological-Benefits-Go-2When I finally had time to process what had happened, I told L. how deeply hurt, how stunned, how sick I was that she did this to me. Her answer was very vague…she gave a tepid “I’m sorry if you thought I did something wrong” kind of apology. I waited for more. More never came. Oy! So frustrating!

But maybe worse than that was my embarrassment with myself. I felt like I should’ve known better. Like I was stupid to spend so much time and effort on a friend who didn’t reciprocate the same way. How I kept hoping things would change back to how they used to be, when we really had fun together. I like to think I have good judgment with people, but from time to time, I’m wrong.

Obviously, things were never the same. In my weaker moments, I still think about it, because I never got closure.

Closure is just what it sounds like. You close the door on that aspect of your life and are at peace. It has been dealt with. It’s over. You move forward.

In a book, the friend would say, “Look, I’m sorry. You were a great friend, and I stabbed you in the back, and I’ve regretted it ever since.” That’s what happened in THE PERFECT MATCH and FOOLS RUSH IN and UNTIL THERE WAS YOU, after all, those times when fiction is infinitely more satisfying than reality.

So here are some tips I picked up over the years. If you need closure, I hope they help!

Acknowledge the fact that you were hurt. We don’t need closure on wonderful situations, after all.

Understand that you won’t get closure from this person, because she cannot admit she’s wrong.

Understand you can get closure without her, all by yourself. Hooray! How, you ask?

  1. Write a letter (but don’t send it!) or have an imaginary conversation with the person. Tell her everything—your sadness, your grief, your anger. It’s good to put those feelings into words. Say aloud in an empty room: “I know what you did, and it’s not okay.”
  2. Do something symbolic. When I realized I wouldn’t ever have the apology I wanted, I threw away a photo of the two of us, as well as a gift she gave me. I felt cleansed, really. Never again would I see those things and be reminded of her.
  3. Understand that it’s not personal, no matter how personal it feels. Chances are extraordinarily high that you are not the first to get this treatment, and you won’t be the last. It’s not that you weren’t a good friend, or you were stupid. This is just how she operates.
  4. Spend time with better people. People who treat you well, reciprocate, enjoy life, laugh. Sometimes, you can almost forget how great friendship is when you’ve gone through something like this.
  5. Acknowledge (and forgive) your own role in the situation. I knew my friend wasn’t as great as I thought she was. I knew that our friendship was lopsided. I saw the signs, and I ignored them, or figured I was exempt from that side of her. I was a dope that way, and I hope not to be again. I have a trusting nature. That’s not always a bad thing, but it does get me into trouble every five years or so.
  6. And finally, when you find yourself going over the same old material regarding that person, stop. Open a book. Call a true blue friend. Eat a cookie. You’ve dealt with this. It’s time to move forward.

Any situations in which you wanted closure but couldn’t get it? Any times you DID get it? How did you feel?

Kristan Higgins

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Kristan Higgins is a New York Times bestselling author and two-time winner of the Romance Writers of America RITA Award. Her books have been called "perfect entertainment for a girl's night in" (Booklist), "hilarious and heartfelt" (Romance Junkies) and "the best I've ever read" (Kristan's husband).

Kristan is the mother of two lovely children, the wife of a firefighter and the owner of a very naughty dog. She loves to eat out, watch movies and of course, read.

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UnknownThe blessing/curse of a writer is that we’re always imagining lurid situations. I don’t think I’ve ever walked to my car in a parking garage without looking for a body, for example. I mean, how many Law & Order episodes start that way, right? You’re just walking back to the car, talking about how bad the movie was, and there’s the body. In fact, I’m always a little surprised not to find a body.

I also picture the Subway Track Rescue. I am so ready to save that hapless person who falls. You see it on CNN all the time. Soon, I’m convinced, I’ll be the one hauling someone to safety. I even estimate how many seconds till the subway gets there. I know all about the third rail, not to worry.

Unknown-1The Saving the Children From the Burning Car. There’s no time to wait for the fire department. My handy keychain holds a window smasher. I can’t wait for that video to go viral—a crowd of people desperately and ineptly banging their fists against the car window, and then, what’s this? It’s Kristan with her window breaker. Boom, window shatters, kids are pulled to safety, my hair looks great for Anderson Cooper.

The Plane Crash. For the past few years, I’ve been on a plane more than in all the years of my life combined. I fly six to ten times a year. I get on the plane, tuck my purse under the seat and survey the area for children. “She climbed over the seat and used her body to shield my baby,” the mother will sob. The President would give my children the Presidential Medal of Freedom and get to have dinner in the White House.

a8635be14ed0fce01ae66f384b963260The Identification of the Kidnappers. Every time I see a white van, I take note, people. Again, Law & Order. “No, I don’t know if it was a Chevy or a Toyota,” I’d say. “But I did write down the plate number.” Imagine the look on Lenny Briscoe’s face (may he rest in peace).

What about you? Do you picture the worst in certain situations? Do tell!

Kristan Higgins

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Kristan Higgins is a New York Times bestselling author and two-time winner of the Romance Writers of America RITA Award. Her books have been called "perfect entertainment for a girl's night in" (Booklist), "hilarious and heartfelt" (Romance Junkies) and "the best I've ever read" (Kristan's husband).

Kristan is the mother of two lovely children, the wife of a firefighter and the owner of a very naughty dog. She loves to eat out, watch movies and of course, read.

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Madeline Martin, you’re the winner of a signed copy of ALL I EVER WANTED! Send me your snail mail addy, and I’ll get a book out to you pronto. 

Kristan Higgins

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Kristan Higgins is a New York Times bestselling author and two-time winner of the Romance Writers of America RITA Award. Her books have been called "perfect entertainment for a girl's night in" (Booklist), "hilarious and heartfelt" (Romance Junkies) and "the best I've ever read" (Kristan's husband).

Kristan is the mother of two lovely children, the wife of a firefighter and the owner of a very naughty dog. She loves to eat out, watch movies and of course, read.

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denzel-washington-flight-posterI’m traveling this week, gang—I was in Milwaukee over the weekend, and I’m in Savannah now. At the end of May, NYC, my favorite city. In June, Ottawa. This fall, a book tour.

I love to travel. I even like airports. I read a lot in the air and at the gates, and I often treat myself to unhealthy food, because calories consumed while traveling don’t count, as everyone knows.

So here are some tales from my travels, as it were.

If an airplane disaster movie is available on a plane, I watch it. Oh, yes I do! Why? Because it lessens the odds, of course. “She went down while watching Cast Away.” Nah! That would never happen. In fact, when I flew to Australia a couple years ago, I watched Flight…you know, the one where my boyfriend, Denzel Washington, flies the plane upside down. Twice.

Food-LAS-ERW-1Last year when I went to Europe, my beloved publisher put me in first class. This was terribly thrilling for a small town Yankee like me. The flight attendant asked me if I wanted something to drink—they had champagne, orange juice, coffee, bottled water. “Yes, please,” I said.

“All of them?” she asked.

“Yes.” I smiled. Wanted to make sure my publisher was getting the bang for their buck. Also on that trip I had a chocolate croissant, a roast beef sandwich and a hot fudge sundae. Felt like I could barely fit off the plane, but hey! It was fun!

I inevitably make friends with someone. “Hi,” I say, “Where are you headed/what are you reading/I love your earrings.” and voila. Miss Congeniality strikes again.

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About a year ago, I had to fly with an air cast on, courtesy of my broken ankle. I was picked up by the loveliest cart driver at O’Hare, who said, “Let’s see how many people we can run down,” and proceeded to charge at the crowds, leaning on his horn and bellowing, “Out of the way, out of the way! Gimpy lady aboard!” I loved him so.

Once, when I was flying to Georgia to see my sister and newborn niece, we had to circle above a huge thunderstorm. It was one of the most beautiful things I’ve ever seen—lightning from above. It made for a hairy landing (I didn’t puke, but it was close), but I’d say it was worth it.

 

How about you? Got any fun travel stories? I’ll give one commenter a signed copy of ALL I EVER WANTED, in which Callie has a notable plane trip as well. Winner will be posted Sunday, so check back!

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