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Dear readers, today is my last regular post as a member of the Jaunty Quills (sob). I still remember when I was asked to join the blog—okay, it was only three years ago and my memory isn’t that bad—and I can honestly say it was one of the happiest days of my writing career. To be asked to join such a fantastically talented group of women on one of the best romance blogs in the blogosphere…it doesn’t get much better than that.

Actually, it does get better, because I got to know the Jaunties as friends and colleagues. I can assure you that they are as lovely, warm, and witty in person as they are on the page. It has truly been a privilege to hang with them, and I’m so grateful for that opportunity.

But sometimes life sends you off in a different direction or starts making demands that can’t be ignored. When that happens, it’s time to regroup, streamline, or just pull in your horns until the dust settles. I’ll be regrouping, although I promise I won’t be disappearing! You’ll still be able to find me on my website and on my Facebook and Twitter pages.

Many, many thanks to the Jaunties for asking me to join the conversation–I love you all. And I’m especially grateful to Shana Galen (and her wonderful assistant, Gayle), who talked me through panic attacks over the more technical aspects of the blog. And NATURALLY I’m exceedingly grateful to Mr. Jaunty P. Quills, who was always a source of inspiration and support (except when he wasn’t, which is an entirely different story).

But more than anything, I’m incredibly grateful to our readers. You share your stories, experiences, and support with us every day, and we’re so grateful for that. You are the best!

Since this is my last post as a JQ, I’d like to do a special giveaway. I’ll give away an Advanced Reading Copy of my next historical romance, MY FAIR PRINCESS (I’m really excited about this book, which kicks off my new series, The Improper Princesses). How do you handle difficult goodbyes? Tell me all about it for a chance to win the ARC.

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75 thoughts on “Ch..Ch…Changes

  1. Amy says:

    Love the Peter Pan quote. I hate goodbyes and am very bad at them. I would prefer to try to avoid them…which is no way to handle them, I know. I wish you farewell and will continue to see you in the pages of your books, as I am an avid reader of your fantastic stories.

    1. Amy, thank you so much for your kind words!

  2. Lorelei says:

    I’ll miss you here! But all the best in your regrouping. May even more exciting things come your way! In this day and age, there’s really no need to say goodbye, because technology makes it easy to stay in touch through social media, emails and Skype. I’d just wish you all the best, wherever life takes you. Keep in touch!
    What a beautiful cover! Thanks for the chance! ☺️❤️💐

    1. Thank you, Lorelei! Skype was a godsend for my family when our son was in Japan for six years. It really eased the pain of him not being at home.

  3. We will miss you terribly, Vanessa. It’s been wonderful having you here, and I’m so glad we’ve become friends!

    1. Thank you, kind lady! Your friendship and the friendship of all the Jaunties is a true blessing in my life.

  4. Karen Simpson says:

    Oh this has been a week of ‘goodbyes.’ I know exactly what you mean Vanessa. Yesterday I said goodbye to a group of employees that I have been working with for three years – but as you said, ‘life sometimes takes you into different directions,’ and it was time for me to move on because there is a different direction for me. But it was so hard. They have been like an extended little family and I have helped many of them through the years. Thebthree years flew by and even this am my husband remarked that he couldn’t believe that much time had passed. So here is to new beginnings – and one less job to work. I would love to win your arc. That sounds Ike a great new beginning.

    1. Karen, hugs on your goodbyes! It’s so hard to leave people you care for, even when you know it’s the right thing to do. But it’s nice to have more open space in one’s life, isn’t it?

  5. Sheryl says:

    I will miss reading your posts, but I do follow you on FB and I get your newsletter. Goodbyes are hard sometimes, but they are necessary. I will still be “following” you. Thanks!

    1. Thank you so much, Sheryl!

  6. Shana Galen Shana Galen says:

    I can’t believe it’s been 3 years. It feels like the blink of an eye. I won’t miss you because I know you’ll still be around, and we have plans for future collaborations (you heard it first here, readers)! It’s been a pleasure blogging with you and getting to know you better. You’re one of my favorite people in the world!

    1. You are one of my favorite people in the world too, Shana! In fact, Randy kind of gets sick of me saying, “well, Shana says…” Here’s to many more fun projects in the future!

  7. catslady5@aol.com says:

    Sad to see you go – seems many blogs are disappearing too (sigh) although I totally understand how busy it must get. I’m just horrible at goodbyes. It’s nice to know you’ll still be on FB.

    1. I know, catslady! Fortunately, the Jaunties keep chugging along. They’re really pretty indestructible!

  8. Dawn A says:

    For me, goodbyes are never easy. Sometimes a hug and a peck on the cheek is enough and sometimes you cry for three days straight.
    You will be missed here. I wish you all the best and I’ll still be following you on Facebook.

    1. Thank you so much, Dawn! *hugs*

  9. Kate Sparks says:

    Life gets busy and everyone has to make choices. We’ll miss you here but will keep tabs on your other social media!!! Keep writing!!

    1. Thanks, Kate! Streamlining my life will hopefully give me more time to write.

  10. Monique D says:

    You will be missed. How do I handle difficult goodbyes? With a lot of tissues and books to distract me. Love you Vanessa!

    1. Monique, you know I love you, too! *hugs*

  11. *tacklehugs Vanessa* We are all going to miss you on the JQs so much! Thank goodness I can still be goofy with you on FB and Twitter. Hope you can come back as a guest when My Fair Princess is out…??

    1. T-Ro, we can never truly break up the band, can we? We’ll just move to a different venue. And I’m scheduled to be back here on August 30th. Huzzah!

      BTW, my heroes want to know if your heroes want to go on a manly fishing trip this weekend. Griffin is providing the hot dogs and S’mores.

      1. Of course! Benedict is always up for bro time.

  12. Patricia Wissore says:

    I handle difficult goodbyes by cooking. I start looking up new recipe’s and start making them. Thankfully I don’t eat them, I feed them to my family. 🙂

    1. That is an EXCELLENT strategy, Patricia!

  13. eap says:

    Good luck to you!

  14. Karen Over-Gall says:

    As a person who has more family in other countries than the United States. I don’t say goodbyes. I simply say I love you and that will never change. So, until next time… wherever and whenever that may be. You are always in my heart. So, no difficult goodbyes. Just a simple until next time! I wish you the best of luck and I know that I will see about again soon. So, until next time Vanessa…

    1. That’s a lovely sentiment – thank you, Karen!

    2. Letitia says:

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  15. Mel K. says:

    I cry and cry and cry.
    Hi Vanessa, I collect ARCs and would love to add yours to my collection. I absolutely cannot wait to read PRINCESS! I am on your newsletter list so I’m glad I’ll still hear from you. Thanks.

    Meljprincess AT aol DOT com

    1. Thank you so much, Mel!

  16. pjpuppymom says:

    You’ll be missed here, Vanessa but I have no doubt that life has many wonderful new adventures waiting for you. How do I handle difficult good-byes? I cry, typically not in front of the person I’m bidding farewell, but as soon as I (or they) turn that corner that takes them out of sight? Let’s just say Niagara Falls has nothing on me! 😉

    1. Thank you, dear! I pretty much have the same strategy as you do!

  17. Natasha Persaud says:

    I don’t handle goodbyes very well actually I’m one of those person who doesn’t say goodbyes I just run before the goodbye time in know it’s bad manners but it’s the only way I can deal with it

    1. I totally hear you, Natasha!

  18. Sharlene Moore says:

    You will be missed, but much luck in coming adventures. Goodbyes, like sticky band aids, just rip it off quickly and then cuss.

    I love this cover.

    1. LOL! I like your style, Sharlene.

  19. Claire Matthews says:

    Good luck to you! (I’m also drooling over your new cover, btw. Gorgeous.)

    1. It’s fantastic, isn’t it, Claire?

  20. Meghan Lyndsey Ann Edwards says:

    Good-byes should have food. I’m Ukrainian (Canadian, but descended that way) and food is always a part of everything. When I said good-bye to my teachers and classmates, we had a party. When I had to leave my counsellor behind I brought her cupcakes and we had a potluck at the end of my group therapy.

    1. Meghan, I think that’s a fantastic way to say goodbye!!

  21. Goodbye’s make me sad, and I usually end up blubbering all over the place. I especially get that way when I visit my family in Tennessee and have to leave to come back home. I know I will see them again, but then again life is ever changing and sometimes you just never know. Sometimes saying goodbye is best for our own growth. I wish you all the best, while ‘the dust in settling’. 🙂

    1. Thanks so much, Angela!

  22. Oh, Vanessa, I’m so sorry to see you go. I know you won’t truly be “gone,” but you’ll certainly be missed here in Jaunty Land. Hugs and wishes for only the best.

    1. Thank you, my friend! *hugs*

  23. Kathy B says:

    Vanessa, I know I am sad to see you leave this wonderful group of talented ladies, but I also know we will all be reading your latest and greatest for many years to come! Be well, and as always can’t wait for the next fantastic novel!

    1. That’s so kind of you, Kathy – thank you!

  24. Eileen A-W says:

    I hate goodbyes. Although I’ve gotten a bit better as I’ve gotten older. Being able to call and talk on the phone helps so that you aren’t cutting all ties to those people. Also knowing that you will be able to see them again eases the pain of leaving and saying goodbye. We will miss your posts Vanessa!! Until next time …

    1. Until next time, Eileen!

  25. bn100 says:

    just say goodbye

  26. Juanita Decuir says:

    As in life, changes always comes, we can only rely on ourselves, family and friends to help make a smooth transition with their support, you have mine, with that comes my blessings for a joyful tomorrow.

  27. Lisa Hutson says:

    I cry. That’s how I handle it. I cry.
    Actually, today, I said good bye to a very dear lovely friend. She is moving to the other side of the country and it will be wonderful for her. And I will go see her and she will come see me. But it won’t be the same as, ‘ Hey Lisa, got time go catch a movie, grab some lunch, whatever. …”
    Saying good bye is just hard but not always bad.

    1. Very, very true, Lisa – thanks for the reminder!

  28. Heather Doyle says:

    I don’t say goodbye. I say see you soon or see you later. I hate goodbye.

    1. I like see you soon, Heather! It’s so optimistic.

  29. Julie-ann Ford says:

    Vanessa, I am not entering because I already have this fantastic book. To answer your question, I never say goodbye unless I am at a funeral. I always say “see you later” or “until we see each other again”. Thank you for being the special person and writer that you are. Thank you for being a friend.

    Until we talk again. <3

    1. Hugs, dear lady! Thank you!

  30. Jennifer bernard says:

    It will be sad to see you go. I will keep up with you, actually I stalk you 😉 , on facebook as usual! Thanks for the great information and conversations you have given us! It’s always hard to say goodbye but, I try to make the last time that I see someone special. It could be as simple as a photo, lunch, gift or something big.

    1. Jennifer, stalk away – see you on facebook!

  31. *sniff* I’m sorry to see you go Vanessa. I never say goodbye, I say see you later. Thank you for all that you do! ~Aleen

    1. Thank you so kindly, Aleen! *hugs*

  32. I don’t do goodbyes well, hindsight is not my friend.. Always thinking of what I should have done. Crazy

    1. I SO hear you on that, Michele.

  33. Beth B. says:

    Sorry to hear you leaving this blog! You were an encouragement to me with getting my feet wet in the writing world & great suggestions (though one of them was to join RWA which I haven’t done yet…guess I don’t feel good enough yet…but I will continue on my journey!)

    I had to say goodbye to co-workers after 28 years we my place of employment was sold….not easy but the other side of my life is the rainbow & no longer the storm clouds!

    Good Luck & I will have to keep up with you on your web page!

  34. Glenda says:

    I’m not at all good at goodbyes to people and places I’ll really miss. I prefer to say ‘auf Weidersehen’ “until late we meet again”. I’ll miss your regular posts, Vanessa! But I’ll still be following you elsewhere online. 🙂

  35. Beth, sounds like you’ve weathered the storm! As for RWA, the majority of the members are not published and many are in the early stages of their writing. It’s a GREAT place to learn the craft and get support. Good luck!

  36. Barbara Elness says:

    Awww, it’s hard to say goodbye, but at least I’ll still see you on Facebook and your newsletter for sure. 😀 I handle difficult goodbyes with hugs and a few tears and hope that I’ll be able to keep in touch. Then I move on, knowing that it is something that must be accepted, no matter how much I’d like to change it. Every time I go home to see my sister I hate saying goodbye and coming home, and visiting my son it’s even harder to say goodbye. But I just start planning my next trip and have that to look forward to. 😀

  37. Pam O says:

    Difficult goodbyes? I totally fall apart! That’s why I rarely let the goodbye get to the difficult stage. Background… growing up I went to 7 schools in 12 years, never looking back. So when you’re out of my life, you’re out. I’ve tried hanging on and it never works. Needless to say I truly treasure my friends and family.

  38. gamistress66 says:

    agree, it’s not goodbye, it’s till another time & place. positive thoughts are best after all. difficult goodbyes are generally filled with a mix of tears and smiles and hugs too. but in the end it’s take a deep breath, let go & say goodbye (and another deep breath).

  39. Karen Dieffenbaugher says:

    I don’t handle good-byes very well…but a big hug and I Love You is the best I can do…As it is not a forever good bye I focus on the next time ….And that’s about it…

  40. Gretchen says:

    Good question. I”m not good at it that’s for sure

  41. Lori H says:

    I hate goodbyes so I say I love you and I’ll see ya later.
    I avoid them when I can.

  42. Laurie Gommermann says:

    Nowadays it’s easy to stay in touch with people via Facebook , Facetime and e-mails. I don’t think of it as goodby forever. Poeple I want to stay in touch with I’ll find a way!

    I’d love to read MY FAIR PRINCESS!

    Best wishes!

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