Cindy Kirk
Cindy Kirk


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In my current WIP (work-in-progress), a book that will be out this October titled, One Night With The Doctor, the heroine meets the hero’s father.  He’s also a doctor and a man many find intimidating.  But he reminds the heroine of someone from her past, and she feels comfortable with him right away.

Would this be believable to you?

The reason it works for me is because of the following two examples from my own life:

Example #1:

I worked all through high school as a waitress at a “tea room.”  I loved it there until a new manager was hired.  She was horrible.  She would yell and scream (yes, SCREAM and YELL) at the employees.  She never missed a chance to berate us in front of the customers, even if we were only delivering news that she’d told us to deliver (no, I’m sorry, we can’t substitue X for X without an additional change).   I intensely disliked this woman and left that job because of her.

Then, in my first year of college, I got a job working part-time in a bank.  Normally, I like pretty much everyone.  But there was something about my new supervisor that made it difficult for me to warm up to her.  She was always nice to me and my fellow employees all liked her so I knew it had to be my issue.  One day it hit me.  She looked like a younger version of my witchy manager from the tea room!   Once I made the connection, I was able to warm up to her and we actually became friends.

Example #2:

I began working for a woman (who was about my age) and even though a lot of my coworkers found it difficult to connect with her, I liked her instantly.  I joked with her, talked easily with her and felt comfortable with her.  Again, it took me a while but I finally realized she reminded me of another friend who had the same demeanor.  Although both women were shy–and were occasionally perceived as arrogant– they were really nice people when you got to know them.  I discovered I’d been responding to my new boss as if she was already my friend.

Have you ever had such experiences?  If you read about this in a book, would it be believable to you?

Let me know your thoughts and you’ll be entered to win your choice of a large-print copy of either The Christmas Proposition, If the Ring Fits or In Love With John Doe.  Winner will be posted on Sunday!




11 thoughts on “Is this believable? You be the judge.

  1. Cindy; This has happened to me a couple of times. I once met an editor on the digital team who looks a lot like one of my co-workers from Disney that I used to generally get into mischief with and immediately I let my guard down and was joking around with the editor even though we’d just met. Something that is a pit unusual for me. ☺

  2. Shana Shana says:

    I think it’s believable. I noticed this a lot as a teacher. If a child reminds you of another you didn’t get along with well or who you really thought was a good student, you have to be careful to wipe their slate clean and not compare them to the kid they remind you of.

  3. Rebe says:

    Well, I really hit it off with my then future father-in-law when we met, but I’ve never been able to pin down why. Maybe just great minds think alike? I did have a very shy, very pretty blonde friend everyone thought was a complete snob, though, so I can relate to that!

  4. eap says:

    you would need a little backstory in the book to be believable in a book.

  5. Kathleen OD says:

    I had a co-worker in my last job, who I found I could just not warm up to and she was the same as my nemesis from the job before that. They were both condescending and I could not warm up to either one of them. It happens. But now that I am retire, I don’t have to worry about those kinds of co-workers.

  6. catslady says:

    I think it’s believable. Sometimes it is hard to pinpoint why you like or dislike someone if it’s not something obvious. If you think of all the people that you’ve interacted with in a lifetime, it seems very possible. Please don’t enter me as I have all three of those enjoyable books 🙂

  7. bn100 says:

    Can’t remember if it’s happened, but it sounds believable.

  8. Marcy Shuler says:

    I can’t remember this happening to me, but I think it would be believeable in a book with the right set-up.

  9. chey says:

    I think it’s believable. I don’t think it’s happened to me.

  10. Kirsten says:

    It could definitely happen. I don’t have someone who reminds me of a person I dislike. I do know a girl with a nose similar to an “annoying” tv presenter. She’s ok & I don’t notice it as much now. But when I first met her I kept looking at that nose 😳

  11. Laurie G says:

    I do think it’s a believable scenario. I’ve had different managers one called the women workers “chickie”, “How you doing chickie?” which made me cringe every time I heard it. She and I differed on other issues too. I was thrilled to see her move on.

    I find that names remind people of people that they didn’t get along with. For example I went to school with a Diane whom I didn’t get along with. Now when I hear that name I associate it with this person. Stupid but true.

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