Katherine Garbera
Katherine Garbera


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lucas and meTomorrow my baby will be 16. I can’t tell you how big an impact this is having on me because it will make me seem sappy and way too emotional. But he’s turned into a young man I’m extremely proud of. He’s good at math (like really good and since I do words and not numbers this impresses me). But he’s also good at life, funny, charming, and compassionate.

From the moment my children were born I’ve felt like I was extremely lucky to shepherd them through life. Though I had rules and “mothered” them I was very aware that they were distinct individuals. They were shaped by my own morals and my passions–books, movies, quotes, etc. And I’m surprised at how different they are from each other since I made no boy-rules vs girl-rules. I should say my oldest is a girl. ๐Ÿ™‚

But at the same time I wish he was still a toddler again. I wish he’d come into a room and announce that its time for mommy and Lukey’s tickle-time. And conversely I get some of that in moment’s in the car when he isn’t on his smartphone texting with his friends or his girlfriend and we see one something that strikes as both as funny. Like the weird Matrix looking dude withe leather duster who walks through our town. Or the Hippies in their Orange VW camper bus.

I guess with each year I’m thankful that I have taken the time to know and love my kids at each stage but I still miss them being little and needing me for everything.

IMG_1587To pre-celebrate his birthday I’m giving away a $10 iTunes gift card to one lucky blog participant. All you have to do to be entered is tell me your favorite birthday memory–it can be your birthday or someone close to you.

46 thoughts on “Time Passages

  1. Xam says:

    I have no most favorite birthday in particular but I would always remember my closest friends’ birthdays whenever we set up surprise parties for them and they’d cry or make unexpected reactions. I just love seeing their genuine reactions plus their mouths in the shape of O faces! Hahaha! And of course, lastly, the best part in birthdays are the food!!!

    Happy birthday to your son and thank you for this opportunity! ๐Ÿ˜€

    1. I love surprise parties too. I have so much fun planning them and getting all the details right. It gives me such a rush to see someone open a present or walk into a room and react with joy!

      Thanks for the birthday wishes for my son. ๐Ÿ™‚

  2. Birthdays are fun as long as you don’t count the years. It does get harder as your children get older. My daughter turned 30 last year, I kept telling her it was just a number and my own birthday numbers have never bothered me but her 30th hit me, (and her too),,,it just means that I am really getting older. My son is 10 years younger than her so this year my baby will be 21…not quite sure how that happened. I just keep telling any one who will listen that I am so proud of them and glad that they have gotten through the really hard growing up years in good shape…enjoy every minute of them no matter how old they are…thanks for the giveaway…

    1. Linda–I’m not sure where the years have gone either. But what a joy. One thing I really have noted is how much I love each new stage with my kids. ๐Ÿ™‚

  3. Kim Cornwell says:

    My grandparents gave me their 1968 mustang. The had it painted, new motor and a huge red bow wrapped around it! I was blown away!

    1. Kim; I’m jealous! My uncle has a ’69 Camaro convertible that I covet but he won’t give it up. ๐Ÿ™‚

  4. Laurie G says:

    When my youngest son, Jason, turned 5 (July) he loved to be the center of attention. He started showing off dancing and gyrating his little body. Unfortunately he was only wearing swimming trunks and he shook them right off. He was so carefree he didn’t even stop dancing!

    I also have pictures of all four of my children eating their first piece of our traditional chocolate angel food birthday cake. I should say that they were mostly wearing it!

    1. Laurie G–what a great story! My son one time when he was two did the same thing at a summer picnic with my local writers group. Everyone still remembers him as the little streaker! ๐Ÿ™‚

  5. Beautiful post, Kathy. Just beautiful.

    1. Thanks, Kristan! ๐Ÿ™‚

  6. Karen H in NC says:

    My birthday is on a day when government offices are closed. Unfortunately, when I turned 16 and was able to get my driver’s license, I had to wait an extra day…they refused to let me get it the day before my birthday! Believe me, I called to find out! Can you tell I was anxious to get that license to be able to drive that car in the driveway that my older brothers left for me when they went into the armed forces?

    My baby girl is 45 and married 20 years in May. My baby boy is 36 now. I can’t believe how old they’re getting!

    1. KarenH;
      I remember waiting for my 16th birthday and going for my license too. I would have been upset if I’d had to wait an extra day. In fact I failed at one location (I can’t drive in reverse) and we went to another location on the other side of the county so I could take it again. ๐Ÿ™‚

  7. ruth says:

    Your photo is lovely. Celebrate and enjoy. Life is fleeting and enjoy all the precious time.

  8. Kathryn in Montreal says:

    Lovely post… this past month has been birthday-poignant for me as my oldest turned 26 and I have no idea why that bothered me (except maybe that I was 25 when I had him and this makes me seem old and him truly adult) and my baby turned 20 last week. Time passes way too fast with kids… they’re all grown up in the blink of an eye. The best surprise I had for a birthday was the surprise party my husband threw for my 40th — totally unexpected and so much fun!

    1. Kathryn; Your surprise party sounds like lots of fun! I have the same feeling as you do as my kids get older. ๐Ÿ™‚

  9. JenfromTexas says:

    For my 15th birthday, we were traveling and were at a hotel. Mom and Dad got me a cake, put candles on it, and sang Happy Birthday while we were in our hotel room. Then the fire alarm went off, because 15 candles can do that. ๐Ÿ™‚

    1. Jen–that’s a great memory. ๐Ÿ™‚

  10. eap says:

    No particular birthday memories except last year with the homemade gluten-free birthday cake.

    1. I’m always surprised how yummy gluten-free food is. ๐Ÿ™‚

  11. Shana Shana says:

    Are you sure you wish he was a toddler? Then you would also hear, “I don’t want to!” a thousand times a day. ๐Ÿ™‚

    My favorite birthday memory is from my last birthday. I got a car!

    1. Shana–I can see your point but as they get older you start to miss them needing you for everything. ๐Ÿ™‚

  12. Terri Reed says:

    Wow, we have kids close to the same age. My son turns 16 in May. My daughter will turn 20 this July. Kids are such a treasure. I don’t have a personal favorite birthday memory. But each birthday for my kids is memorable. I can recall each one and sigh a little at the passage of time.

    1. Hi Terri! I didn’t realize our kids were so close in age either. Me too on recalling each party for them. ๐Ÿ™‚

  13. Kathleen OD says:

    Happy Birthday to your Son…
    My fav memory would have to be my 50th Birthday. I knew my mother was not well enough to plan anything, but with the help of my Bff and My Fav Cousin they had a surprise party for me with all my friends and family. Well just the female ones.
    I have been so lucky to have the friend and family I have and I am so very grateful that they are all in my life.

    1. Kathleen OD–what a wonderful birthday memory. It does sound like you are truly blessed. ๐Ÿ™‚

  14. Connie Fischer says:

    Congratulations on having such a wonderful son. Obviously you have raised him well and you deserve huge congratulations. My sons are 46 and 41 and I am so very proud of them. Oh yes, they went through times as little kids where I swore they would end up being career criminals, but today they are such wonderful men and I am so very proud of them. The solid foundation you have given your son will reap so many rewards for everyone. Now, pat yourself on the back. You deserve it!!

    1. Thank you, Connie! I feel blessed to have my son. I had a chuckle at your comment of “career criminals”. ๐Ÿ™‚ We feared the same thing of my middle sister but she’s turned out pretty good. ๐Ÿ™‚

  15. bn100 says:

    Happy birthday to your son! One memory was celebrating it at a restaurant.

    1. Thanks for your wishes for my son. ๐Ÿ™‚

  16. Kimh says:

    That Is great what s good young man
    my 21 bday was great with all my friesnds and little drinking thansks

    1. Kimh–my 21st birthday was memorable too. What a fun year that is to celebrate. ๐Ÿ™‚

  17. ellie says:

    Happy Birthday to your son. You deserve to be proud. Being a parent is hard but rewarding. A birthday that was special was a milestone one that was memorable.

    1. Thanks, Ellie. Being a parent is one of my greatest joys! Milestone birthdays are always a lot of fun.

  18. JackieW says:

    One of my favorite birthdays was when I turned eleven. I was at Girl Scout camp and I remember that I was 10 on June 10th and then11 on June 11th, my birthday. It was very special.

    1. JackieW–that sounds like a very special memory. My birthday is on the 22nd and my boss when I turned 22 said it was a special day for me and it was. ๐Ÿ™‚

  19. Barbara Elness says:

    My favorite birthday memory was the year before last. I was turning 60 and decided to fly to California to spend Halloween and my birthday with my sister, I figured she could commiserate with me because she already had that birthday and knew just how I felt. I had a fantastic time trick or treating with her grandkids and celebrating my birthday with my family. And she got me my favorite birthday dessert, a pumpkin pie. ๐Ÿ˜€

    1. Barbara–that sounds like so much fun!! ๐Ÿ™‚

  20. Chelsea B. says:

    My favorite has to be when we turned an entire dance studio into a haunted house for my 13th birthday party. Every room had a different activity– fortune teller, game room, costume contest. That one has yet to be beat! ๐Ÿ˜€

    1. Chelsea–that sounds like a really great birthday. I have never been a big fan of haunted houses but I think if everyone had gone to all that effort I would have enjoyed it a lot.

  21. Thank you everyone for participating and for your birthday wishes for my son. He says thank you very much. ๐Ÿ™‚ I will post the winner’s name on Sunday.

  22. Melody May says:

    My two kids are night and day. When my daughter first turn one she was afraid of the candle. She had gotten better about the candle. My son he’s so cute and all boy. He actually try to grab the flame. Felt bad for him. I mention this, because his birthday is next week I wonder if he has learned his lesson. Those first birthdays our memorable.

  23. JOYE says:

    My favorite birthday was when I turned 21- my Dad bought me an old car to drive. I even gave it a name- Willie. I picked out that name since he had purchased it from an airman stationed at Williams Air Force Base outside Chandler, AZ. It got me where I was going- mostly to college- but not in very much style.

  24. Ann s. says:

    I remember my seventh birthday party. I got to invite all my friends for a spaghetti dinner and my mother made me a cherry cake. I had a princess theme and we all got crowns. My mother had sewn me a pink and lace dress and I got a pink Easy Bake Oven. I still remember how wonderful that birthday was, it was everything I loved.

  25. Vickie P says:

    Actually not one specific birthday, but I’m slicing together clips from old videos of my younger son’s birthday celebrations to show him when he turns 21 this spring. They have all been “laugh-out-loud” funny…especially when older son blew out candles on younger one’s cake!

  26. Lorelei says:

    Aw, I completely know how you feel! Congrats to your young man. The happiest birthday memory I have,that just filled my heart was when my youngest was turning 10 and I asked him for his party what kind of cake he would want. I thought he’d say one from a bakery because friends were coming. He said he wanted ME to bake the cake (as usual) because I made the best cake ever, and it was made especially for him and with love. That was the last year I think when kids switch from being mommy’s little boy to middle school preteens. I will never forget that day and his genuine comment filled with so much love. Like you, I miss it, too.

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