I’m one of those people who likes to think that she’s stress-free and that I have no worries. To be honest most of the time I can escape into “my world” which is full of characters who live exciting lives and I don’t really touch base in reality except with my family. I talk and laugh with them and try to insulate myself from the worries that go along with living.
When I am not in “my world” it is easy for me to be overwhelmed by the number of things that are out of my control. I had to try a new hair salon yesterday to get ready for my first ever romance writing conference in the UK and it was familiar and sort of comforting to smell the chemicals used for the hair dye. Silly I know.
I don’t like change. I don’t care that usually changes bring about something good and unexpected in my life. I like my routine.
I try to write characters that embrace change because each time I do I get a little closer to seeing something good that’s come from a major upheaval in my life. Willow in Calling All The Shots doesn’t like change and kind of hunkers down when things change around her whereas Jack rolls with. He even expects change because life has proven to him that it isn’t stable.
What about you? Do you like change or do you really like your routine? Has your life been nice and calm or do you always find yourself trying something new?




























































Nov 13th
2012
6:41 am
Mia Marlowe Said:
A friend of mine who works with special needs kids says there is a bit of autism in all of us that resists change. We like repetition. We crave patterns. That said, I’m always looking for another adventure…I just want everything to be comfy while I’m having it.
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Nov 14th
2012
2:45 am
Katherine Garbera Said:
Mia–I’m a bit like you in that I like adventure but I want it on my terms like when I’ve planned for it!
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Nov 13th
2012
7:59 am
Connie Fischer Said:
Now, that I’m retired, I usually like to know what to expect with each day. However, I can be quite ready for impromptu things such as last minute dinner plans with friends. My husband and our children moved three times for his job during his career and I was eager to make these moves. We moved to Washington, DC and then to Paris two different times. Moving to Europe meant huge changes, but I took a deep breath and told myself that I could do it and I did! I feel as though I am a stronger person for jumping in and seeing where it took me. Life is too short to hide at home under the covers.
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Nov 14th
2012
2:46 am
Katherine Garbera Said:
Connie–you sound very brave to me. Also, it seems you’ve had a very exciting life. One think I do like about moving around is the new people I get to meet.
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Nov 13th
2012
8:06 am
Emily McKay Said:
I’m like you, Kathy, I like stability. I’d be perfectly happy if nothing ever changed.
But I know change is a part of life and I try not to get too paralyzed by it.
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Nov 14th
2012
2:47 am
Katherine Garbera Said:
Emily–perhaps we should build a safe little bunker and hunker down in it???
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Nov 13th
2012
8:15 am
Kristan Higgins Said:
I find change very uncomfortable! But I also recognize that sometimes it’s necessary, even when it doesn’t feel great.
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Nov 14th
2012
2:47 am
Katherine Garbera Said:
Kristan–for me the changes that have made me the most uncomfortable have led to the rewarding new paths. But it was hard getting to it.
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Nov 13th
2012
10:11 am
Margo Maguire Said:
I do love my routines. Even when we go away for a vacation, I’m only good for a limited time – 10 days at most. Then I want my own bed, my own shower, my coffee pot, my kitchen, my dining room, my family room, my…. Well, you get the picture.
It must have been tough for you to get used to living in the UK, Kathy!
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Nov 14th
2012
2:48 am
Katherine Garbera Said:
Margo–the UK move was one of those things that sounded sort of fun but then when the reality hit was a lot harder than I thought it would be. I’m still adjusting and its been a year and a half. My family took to the change much quicker.
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Nov 13th
2012
2:04 pm
catslady Said:
I like to know things ahead of time but it seems the younger generation likes to fly by the seat of their pants!! I guess I’m not the best at quick changes but I’m trying lol.
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Nov 14th
2012
2:49 am
Katherine Garbera Said:
I agree! I’m not a seat of the pants person at all. My daughter (she’s 20) is impossible to pin down on plans she’s always like I’ll text them when we get there. What? Why haven’t you made plans yet???
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Nov 13th
2012
4:10 pm
Shana Said:
I hate change. Hate it! It drove me nuts when my daughter was an infant because nothing she did was predictable and every other week she would change what she was doing. I have never been so stressed out in my life.
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Nov 14th
2012
2:52 am
Katherine Garbera Said:
Shana–infants are so hard to plan around. I thought I’d have this serene motherhood when my kids were babies. I’d planned for it and then my daughter was colicky and I had a hard time breastfeeding. It was very difficult because it wasn’t at all what I’d pictured.
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Nov 13th
2012
9:42 pm
Ann s. Said:
I definitely like stability. I don’t need drama in my life. I do wish I were a little more adventurous in trying new things, but I am happy with the familiar.
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Nov 14th
2012
2:52 am
Katherine Garbera Said:
Ann–sometimes I think maybe I should try something new and then if I do it I’m like why did I think this was a good idea. I don’t like new things.
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Nov 13th
2012
10:02 pm
Quilt Lady Said:
I don’t like change at all. I wish my life was calmer then it is. It just seems like lately there is always something going on and its just a bad time for things to happen.
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Nov 14th
2012
2:53 am
Katherine Garbera Said:
I love being busy when I have time to make a list and manage it. And then when its over I like to sit back and pat myself on the back for having accomplished so much.
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