Cindy Kirk
Cindy Kirk


Cindy Kirk

I think we can all agree that it’s essential in a romance novel to get a good feel for the hero and heroine.  Think for a second how we as readers usually get to know these characters.

We learn what a character is like based on:

* How they act in in different situations.

* What they say (and how they say it)

* What they don’t say and why

* Through a card game

What?  Through a card game?  How can that be?

In the book I’m currently writing that will be out in May 2013, I invented a card game.  It’s called Heart to Heart (who said I couldn’t be creative?).  Supposedly the heroine had received this game/deck of cards from her friend several years earlier.

The game consists of a deck of cards with questions on them.  Each card also has one or two hearts on it.  The deck is shuffled and each player takes turn drawing a card.  They have to answer the question on the card they’ve drawn.  If there is one heart on the card, only the one who’s drawn the card answers.  If there are two hearts on the card, everyone playing answers that question.  Pretty clever, huh?

I thought it might be fun to give you one of the questions the hero had to answer.  I had him get this question specifically because he’s having issues with his father, who is the person he’s most like.

The question he got was:  Who do you think you are most like in your family?

Let’s pretend there are two hearts on this card and we all have to answer this question.  Everyone who comments will be entered into a drawing to win one of my books (their choice–as long as I have one in stock).  I’ll draw the winner Sunday night…so check back then.

I’ll go first.  Here’s my answer.  “I’m not sure.  My mother and I shared many similiar characteristics so I’d have to say her.  My brother and I were nothing alike.  My father was more quiet…and I’m not that quiet….so final answer: my mother.

See how easy this is?   Your turn…




22 thoughts on “Getting to know a character by a….card game?

  1. Melody May says:

    This would be a tough question. My mother and share similar characteristics at the same time nothing alike. My brothers, well, we are nothing alike. My sister, she’s still trying to figure herself out (20 yrs age gap). My father is quiet, but on the other hand he’s loyal. I would have to say on hand I’m more like my father. Not the quiet, but I do have quiet moments. I tend to be loyal like he is.

    1. Cindy Kirk Cindy Kirk says:


      Loyalty is such an admirable quality. Like you, my brother and I are nothing alike. Thanks for commenting!

  2. Shana Shana says:

    Wow! I can hardly manage to write coherently about card games that exist. I’m impressed, Cindy!

    Who am I most like? Probably my dad. We both get very wrapped up in our passions, we tend to be Type A, we are quiet and more introverted.

  3. I think my dad and I are most alike, or were most alike, since he passed away long ago. But maybe that’s why…I try harder to be like him since he’s gone and think more about his qualities. Interesting question, Cindy!

  4. Laurie G says:

    I’m amazed to say I’m a lot like my mother. We don’t always get along… maybe because we are so alike. One big difference is that she loves to shop. I will do almost anything to avoid it.

    1. Cindy Kirk Cindy Kirk says:


      I think it is so true that when you’re a lot like someone there can be conflict. Thanks for playing the game!

  5. Cindy Kirk Cindy Kirk says:

    Shana and Kristan,

    It’s interesting that you’re both more like your father.

    The thing I like about the question is that it makes you take a step back and really think before answering. Thanks for playing the “game.”

  6. Kirsten says:

    I’m a lot like my mom. We share many interests, movies, books, food. Also we look alike both dark hair and the same nose. But I’m also a lot like my dad as a person. How I respond to situations and my outlook on life… So it’s not so easy to say but I’d go with mom. 😀

    1. Cindy Kirk Cindy Kirk says:

      I know, Kirsten, sometimes it’s not a clear cut choice. Nice to hear from you again!

  7. catslady says:

    I’m skipping both my parents and going right to my mother’s mom. I think we both seem to have had the same sense of humor (the rest of the family is way too serious). She worked a rented farm with my grandfather and although I don’t live on a farm, I love the land and nature and animals as she did. She hated cleaning and I am guilty of that – my mom and sister are the complete opposite. She loved to cook – me too. She enjoyed having a good time and loved people. Yep, I take after her 🙂

    1. Cindy Kirk Cindy Kirk says:

      She sounds like a wonderful lady…

  8. Connie Fischer says:

    What a fun game! I never realized what a tough question that is until you posed it. Thinking on it, I would say I am most like my aunt. She was always a bit of a rebel and did things her way. Unfortunately, I tend to be that way too. I’m certainly not shy and I’m also not a pushover, however, I am nice!! Hopefully, that tempers my being a rebel! 😉

    1. Cindy Kirk Cindy Kirk says:

      Connie, I know what you’re saying. It seems like such a simple question…but it does take some thought.

      I bet your aunt is proud to have a niece that is so much like her!

  9. Jane says:

    Hi Cindy,
    I think I’m a combo of my aunt on my mother’s side and my male cousin. My cousin and I get along great and have the same tastes in music. We also have the same sense of humor.

    1. Cindy Kirk Cindy Kirk says:


      Isn’t it amazing when you share those characteristics with relatives? I have a friend whose niece (her brother’s daughter) is JUST LIKE HER. Looks like her, acts like her. Crazy and cool.

  10. bn100 says:

    Sounds like a fun game. I’m most like my mom.

    1. Cindy Kirk Cindy Kirk says:

      Thanks for commenting, BN. My daughter is more like my husband.

  11. Leah Weller says:

    This is a pretty easy one for me simply because I am unlike anyone in my family. I’ve always flown by the seat of my pants, much to my parents consternation. I hate to say black sheep so lets just say I’m a pink one who while all the other sheep are running in a straight line to get from point A to point B, I am running haphazardly through the tree lines. 🙂
    (smily is blinking it’s eyes repeatedly and fast)

    1. Cindy Kirk Cindy Kirk says:

      I think it’s neat Leah that you march to the beat of your own drum. Good for you! And thanks for posting.

  12. Molly says:

    I’m impulsive like my dad. I’m emotional like my mom. I resemble both parents in different ways.

    1. Cindy Kirk Cindy Kirk says:


      That’s cool…a little of each of them in you!

  13. Cindy Kirk Cindy Kirk says:


    You’re the winner!! Please check out my website and look at both the Cindy Kirk and Cynthia Rutledge books.

    Tell me which one you’d like, give me your snail mail addy and I’ll put it in the mail to you right away.

    Thanks to everyone who commented!

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