We celebrated a new milestone in my family this week: my daughter started High School.
I can’t quite get used to the idea.
It was dark and humid at 6 am on Monday when she slung her new, red and black plaid backpack over her shoulder and strolled out the door, her size double-zero skinny jeans and short sleeved t-shirt the perfect outfit for a school day. As she climbed into the car for my husband to drive her to the bus stop, I tried not to pay attention to the tight, uncomfortable ache in my stomach, that Mommy protectiveness that always intervenes at such moments.
I knew she was nervous. I didn’t want to let her to see that I kind of was, too. I wanted to be excited for her, to encourage her to stretch her teenage wings and to seize the opportunities ahead. I smiled, waved, wished her a great day, and watched them pull out of the drive.
When they’d gone, I hugged Kai, our cat, who’d brushed against my legs and started meowing for attention. My daughter had chosen Kai from the kitties at the humane society and had picked out his name. The same daughter who’d started High School. My sweet little girl, who loved snuggling in bed to read storybooks together, making up adventures with her stuffed toys, and racing our previous cat around in her toy wagon, was now going to a school of more than 3,000 students. In just a few years, she’ll be graduating and moving away to start college. She’s already talked about perhaps attending university in England.
I know, growing up is the natural process of life, but still . . .
All day Monday, I tried not to worry about the things that could go wrong for her: forgetting her locker combination; being late for class because she’d got lost trying to navigate the new campus; misplacing a textbook she needed for an important assignment. What if she got on the wrong bus to come home?
I remind myself that my daughter’s a smart, independent, resourceful young woman. A large group of her pals from middle school are going to this high school, so she has people to rely on, when necessary. She’s already making new friends, being introduced to fresh ideas and ways of learning, and being encouraged to develop new talents. She’s going to be fine.
More than fine.

But I still can’t quite get used to the idea.
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Aug 18th
2010
6:34 am
kris Said:
Congrats on the milestone. Scary!! My daughter is 8 and I am sooo not looking forward to HS.
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Aug 18th
2010
7:03 am
Laurie G Said:
School’s starting already!! Summer has flown by!! High school… I hope she likes it!
I have two mile stones to report:
My oldest son, Luke 24 and his girlfriend, Amy became engaged and are planning a April 9th wedding!! We’re very excited!
My middle son, Eric 22 graduated from the University of Florida!! He will continue on in a graduate school program.
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Aug 18th
2010
8:49 am
Emily McKay Said:
Argh! My own daughter is starting kindergarten this year and I’m *so* not ready for that. This morning at 5:30 I was lying awake terrified of High School. Okay, I know that’s, like, nine years away, but I’m still terrified. This summer has gone by so fast and it seems like just yesterday that she was starting preschool.
Laurie, congrats on all the good news for your family! Engagements are wonderful and you must be so proud of your son graduating!
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Aug 18th
2010
9:09 am
Kristan Higgins Said:
Catherine, I cry on the first day of school every year. Wait all day for the kiddies to come home. That being said, I’m also counting the days till they start. How’s that for dichotomy? All of us mothers want to raise our kids…but the thought of them leaving…ouch! I’m right there with you.
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Aug 18th
2010
9:41 am
Shana Galen Said:
I think I will worry more about middle school than high school. I see kids struggle more with the elementary to middle school transition than middle to high. I bet your daughter is doing great, Catherine. Trust me, it will be a long 4 years.
I think I’m the only parent ready for my daughter to grow up and talk and eat on her own and get out of diapers. But since she’s not grown up, I am kind of freaking out that she starts a little day school 2 days a week in September. She’ll only be there a few hours, but will she nap? Eat? Play nice? I’m sure many neurotic blogs are to come…
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Aug 18th
2010
9:50 am
Quilt Lady Said:
My son takes his driving test tomorrow, not sure he’s ready, guess we will find out! Congrats on daughter starting high school you will turn around and then it will be college!
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Aug 18th
2010
10:03 am
Margo Maguire Said:
It’s a huge milestone, Catherine, but those 4 years passed faster than any other span in my kids’ lives (at least, to me). As for going to college in the UK — there’s always skype. And hey, that’s a great excuse to visit, right? And does your husband must still have some family there?
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Aug 18th
2010
10:04 am
KathrynSmith Said:
Catherine, what a great time in your daughter’s life! I remember how scary and exciting high school was. I know she’ll have a great time, and bless you for being so worried about her.
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Aug 18th
2010
10:48 am
Shannon Said:
My baby potty trained. I have a little time before she goes to high school. =)
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Aug 18th
2010
11:34 am
Maureen Said:
Good luck to your daughter in her new school. Our youngest graduated from high school in June so this is the first time in a very long time that we have no children in public school.
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Aug 18th
2010
12:24 pm
catslady Said:
It really does get a little better but I wouldn’t have believed it. I think it’s the fact that you think they no longer need you and obviously they don’t need the day to day nuturing that mother’s love to give but seeing them turn into mature adults is very exciting (still scary lol). My oldest moved out her second year of college which was close by and then eventually futher to the main campus. She graduated with two degrees while also working. Left two boyfriends that weren’t for her and met a new guy. They moved even further away after graduation but after another year came back and got married (wonderful wedding 2 years ago and just this year bought a house less than 10 minutes away. Grandchildren are next (yay). My youngest is in her last year of college and also lives full time on her own while working but her steady boyfriend lives here so I’m wishing for the best even though he is a lot older and a starving artist (sigh). Enjoy the moments because it really does go fast.
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Aug 18th
2010
12:27 pm
catslady Said:
Sorry for going on so much but I meant to add that they still need you – helping with so many things or sometimes just advice
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Aug 18th
2010
3:22 pm
RobynDeHart Said:
How wonderful and terrifying all at the same time, Catherine. Try to remember that all the junk that goes along with high school and being a teenager made you into the woman you are today and your daughter will need to go through that junk to be a properly functioning adult. I mean isn’t that why we had to endure it?
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Aug 18th
2010
4:23 pm
Mary M Said:
I think it’s a sign you’re a great Mom that your daughter feels secure enough. to embark on an adventure like study abroad. So pat yourself on the back too during the milestones and Thank God for cats!
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Aug 19th
2010
1:05 am
Nancy Robards Thompson Said:
Hugs to you and your sweet daughter, Catherine.
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Aug 19th
2010
4:43 am
Christina Hollis Said:
That was so touching, and true. I can’t bear to think of my first ‘baby’ setting off for university in October. I’ll be in pieces.
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